What will the neighbors think?

The great fear

That is indeed very common and starts within the family. What does the partner think? Do they think I’m stupid? Do they still take me seriously? Can they relate to it? He or she might be more rationally inclined, can’t relate to such things, or doesn’t want to.

Then you finally dare to talk about it, and the first crooked grin comes from your partner – and suddenly you’re the little girl or boy who has never been taken seriously. The child with the ‘vivid imagination,’ the child who always causes trouble and never gets anything right, or the child who always sat on the sidelines.

This is a very real problem and often leads to spiritual people hiding and bending for years or decades. Until they can’t anymore.

A story

The protagonist of the story is entirely fictional; she is a mix of many of my clients who have experienced similar things. Women and men.

Petra, 41 years old, married, mother of two children, lives and works in her hometown at the savings bank. Deputy branch manager, pretty much everyone in the town knows her. The children go to elementary school, she is on the parents’ council, and in several clubs. That’s just how it is when you have lived there your whole life.

It’s going well for her, you might think. But that’s not the case. Because she bends over backwards not to stand out.

It started about 10 years ago. At first, it was ‘just’ a mild depression, nothing dramatic, she managed it inconspicuously. A short therapy, a bit of ‘sick leave,’ no one noticed. Maybe no one wanted to notice, as people don’t like to deal with such things.

Now she functions again, anyway. She has to at the savings bank too, because the customers there are quite conservative and there’s a lot of gossip.

But something is fermenting inside her that is almost eating her up. There’s something there. She discovered this after the therapy. When she was looking for what she was really missing. There was such a pulling inside her, such a burning, as if a part of her had developed a life of its own. Very difficult to describe and not to talk about anyway.

She started doing yoga back then and then ended up in this meditation circle. There she met people who were really spiritual. For the first time in her life, she felt understood and seen.

And she has slowly figured out what she is missing. She has realized that she also perceives more than most other people. That she can see really deeply, at soul level. That she simply knows things that others don’t know. That she can lay her hands on them and actually make a difference.

Not only with their own children, but also with complete strangers. Recognizing that did her good. But it also made her lonely. Apart from this small circle of spiritual people, she couldn’t talk to anyone about it.

At some point she told her husband and he was really understanding. At least on the surface. He just didn’t take them seriously. It was a bit uncomfortable for him. What are people supposed to say? The topic was quickly taken off the table again.

She’d better not talk about it so much, he suggested. She has her circle, so she is allowed to go there once a week. But it’s better not to tell anyone. Maybe take a week’s vacation, get back to normal. Topic closed.

Now she’s sitting there and she realizes that she can’t do it anymore. She realizes that the part of her that wants to live now is open, big and free! But what should the neighbors think?

And your customers at the savings bank? Your boss? The other moms at school? None of this is possible …

And if it does?

Until one of her spiritual companions told her that it was possible after all. Because there is no other way. You can’t spend your whole life suppressing the biggest and strongest part of you just because you think someone doesn’t want you to.

Well, of course you can, but it will first torture you and then kill you. Literally. Cancer, for example, is predominantly based on the suppression of one’s own parts. Depression anyway.

So what did she do, Petra? She plucked up all her courage and started talking openly about the fact that she is a healer. First with other mothers, then in clubs and then at work.

Phew … tough stuff … she thought

And what happened? Nothing! Sure, a few people looked at you funny, but so do they if you drive the wrong car, like cats instead of dogs or dogs instead of cats, or dress your kids in clothes that are too colorful.

But that was the most dramatic thing that happened to her. On the contrary, she received an incredible number of positive reactions and often even “oh you too, I can also do xyz … I’ve also been to the shaman … do you know healer abc from the neighboring village?” and so on.

Even the customers at the savings bank talk to her about it. Not to call them stupid, but because they are looking for advice and help or simply want to share their own spiritual experiences.

And her husband now accepts it too. He was just uncomfortable at first, he’s only human and a graduate engineer, so he’s more of a guy with facts and figures. But that is no longer an issue for him. He just has a healer for a wife. Nobody really cares these days.

Well, what do the neighbors think?

Mostly nothing at all. At least not about you. They have their own topics to think about.

This fear of being rejected, ridiculed, perhaps even punished goes back a long way. Think back to your childhood. Were you taken seriously? Or were you that child with the “vivid imagination”?

Were you allowed to be as you were, or were you expected to function? That you “adapt”? That you shut up?

And then go back even further. How did your parents grow up, like your grandparents? Were children taken seriously back then? Spiritual children even? Sometimes there are ancestral patterns behind them that go back tens of generations. And you stand there and suffer from these patterns, even though it’s not necessary.

Now, as an adult, you are no longer dependent on someone liking you. It’s just the old pattern inside you that’s still crying out for love. Time to change that, what do you think?

Because when you do, you’ll realize that there are a lot of people out there who love you just the way you are, precisely BECAUSE of who you are. And spiritual abilities are much more widespread than you think anyway.

At the time, I was amazed at how many shamans there were. Like sand by the sea. Look at how many meditation circles there are, how many offers, how many healers. The moment you appear in all your power, you will realize that you are not alone at all.

So, what are you waiting for? Show yourself! Now! The world is waiting for you.

I have accompanied countless people on this journey. Once these patterns of obstruction are released within you, you will realize how much energy you have been holding back. And you’ll notice that this is definitely not an issue for your neighbors, nor for your partner.

Write to me right now and let’s get going: mail@gerhard-zirkel.com

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